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HOLDING A GRUDGE-The act of being and staying offended, rather than forgiving and moving on.


A person should not be forgiven until he asks for it.  T  F

Forgiving includes minimizing the offense & the pain caused.T  F

Forgiveness includes restoring trust and reuniting a relationship. T  F

You haven’t really forgiven until you’ve forgotten the offense.    T  F

When I see someone hurt, it is my duty to forgive the offender.T  F


I. Forgiveness is not…


1. Conditional.

Jesus on the cross… “father forgive them…”


2. Minimizing the seriousness of the offense.


3. Resuming a relationship without changes.


For restoration to happen, the offender must do 3 things.


  • Repentance

  • Restitution

  • Restored trust


4. Forgetting what happened.


II. Forgiveness is…



19 Never avenge yourselves.  Leave that to God, for He has said that He will repay those who deserve it.   Romans 12:19a (TLB)


15 Be careful that none of you fails to respond to the grace which God gives, for if he does there can very easily spring up in him a bitter spirit which is not only bad in itself but can also poison the lives of many others.  Hebrews 12:15 (Phillips)


2. RESPONDING TO EVIL with good.

27 Do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, and pray for those who mistreat you.  Luke 6:27-28 (NIV)


3. REPEATING THE PROCESS as long as necessary.

22 Peter asked, "Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me?  Seven times?” 22 “No.” Jesus replied, “seventy times seven!”  Matthew 18:21-22 (NLT)


The secret of offloading the weight of offense


  • I REMEMBER how much I have BEEN FORGIVEN.

13b Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.  Colossians 3:13b (NLT)


13 You were dead because of your sins ... Then God made you alive with Christ.  He forgave all our sins. 14 He canceled the record that contained the charges against us.  He took it and destroyed it by nailing it to Christ's cross. Colossians 2:13-14 (NLT)


  • I REFUSE to take the BAIT OF OFFENSE in the future.


32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)


3 good reasons why you should forgive


1.  God has forgiven you.

2.  Bitterness makes you miserable.

3.  You’re going to need more forgiveness later.